I’m twenty-five weeks pregnant – well past the halfway point now! Which means I am starting to realize that, yes, this is really happening and maybe I should get myself prepared for baby #2!
I’ve pulled out the adorable teeny, tiny outfits that were packed away. And the blankets and other gear and taken stock of what we have and what we still need. I’ve tried out a few things that weren’t around when baby #1 came along, including some awesome new stuff from Munchkin who sponsored this post. But most of all I’ve been trying to wrap my head around all the changes that are going to be taking place.
As the weeks are ticking by and time is barreling towards the day we bring home our second baby, I am overjoyed…but nervous. We’ve got a pretty sweet routine going with our two year old and I know throwing a newborn into the mix is going to shake things up. A lot.
Will Griffin feel neglected and abandoned? How will I manage dinner and bedtime times two when my husband is working late? Will I really love this new little guy as much as Griff? Will I ever leave the house alone again? Am I going to be able to make breastfeeding work? Will we be able to get back into the cloth diaper routine that I seem to have abandoned?
I realize that families all over the world have happily and successfully added second babies to their homes…and third babies and more. But the thing is, I have never done this before! I know this is going to be a huge adjustment and I have plenty of questions and worries, but my biggest worries all seem to center around breastfeeding.
When I had Griffin two years ago, I was nervous about breastfeeding. There just seem to be so many things that can go wrong. Thankfully, many of the things I was worried about never happened. Unfortunately, there were other problems that I had never even considered.
Griffin has been brushing up on his big brother skills. (Now I just have to teach him the bottle goes in the baby’s mouth, not the nose!)
When Griff was a newborn, he latched on just fine and was always ready to eat. The problem was he just wouldn’t grow! He was born at a healthy 7 pounds 13 ounces but was down to 7 pounds 1 ounce when we left the hospital. Not really unusual. But when we went in for a weight check three days later, he hadn’t gained anything back. So we scheduled another appointment and the same thing happened again. And again. And again. Phrases like failure to thrive started being thrown around. After that first appointment, we decided we had to supplement with formula. It wasn’t really how I wanted things to go, but I was not going to let my baby go hungry in order to meet some breastfeeding goal.
Luckily things finally turned around and by the time he was a month old, he was back up to his birth weight and things continued to improve from there. Unfortunately, we were never able to go back to exclusively breastfeeding. Which meant every two hours when he ate, we spent more than thirty minutes nursing and then he got a bottle of formula on top of that. I eventually ended up weaning him much earlier than I had planned at only three months when I headed back to work.
Looking back, I wish things had worked out differently. But my little boy got the nutrition he needed and is healthy and thriving so I’m not beating myself up about not meeting all my ideals. I would, however, love to be able to breastfeed exclusively for this new little guy’s first year. And if that isn’t possible, at least for as long as possible.
After feeding the ‘baby’ Griff put him in the crib, covered him up, and said “Night night. Lub you.” Melts my heart.
So I’m working to get myself ready now. Mostly by giving myself a bit of a pep talk in determination and encouragement. But also in more tangible ways.
I’ve been pulling out all my old gear from when Griff was born. But I’ve also realized that even though it has only been two years since I had a newborn, there is some pretty awesome baby gear out there that just wasn’t around even then.
I recently discovered Munchkin’s new LATCH bottle and pacifiers. I’ve seen lots of bottles that look more like a real breast, but none that actually mimic the way breastfeeding works. The special accordion nipple on LATCH bottles stretches, works, and moves like a real breast which helps the baby latch on more easily. The genius part is it makes it so much easier for babies to transition back and forth between breast and bottle. (Which is going to be vital if I ever want to leave the house for more than an hour alone!) LATCH bottles also mimic the way moms release breast milk and help ensure baby doesn’t swallow air bubbles that can lead to gas and fussiness. I’ve seen LATCH bottles at Target and Babies’R’Us, but you can also order them directly from Munchkin.com where you can save up to 15% off your purchase.
Now to finish pulling out all the baby gear, wrap up the nursery refresh, and enjoy my last few months as a mother of one!
Anyone have any great breastfeeding tips or encouragement to share? Advice for going from one to two? I’d love to hear from some other mothers out there about your own experiences and challenges feeding your little ones!
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